Thursday, May 08, 2008

It’s not as easy…

It has been really tiring for me recently, being a pregnant mum, having to juggle between real busy work schedule and family.

My 20-months old son is really hyper and he runs around the house non-stop! Well, ofcoz that’s quite normal for a boy, but it’s just a bit tiring for the care taker, that’s all…Hubby has been helping ofcoz, but sometimes somehow I felt he’s not disciplining the boy well so I have to interrupt.

Work has been terribly stressful lately, with overwhelming workload and tight schedules. Also, having to handle some really difficult people in the same project, is really causing lots of unnecessary additional stress…

Somehow this pregnancy has caused me some serious sinus problem at night, causing me to have insufficient or very low quality sleeps. So then during the day, I’m feeling extremely tired due to lack of sleep and my body is aching like hell, especially the neck and shoulder…how I wish I could go for a good massage or SPA now…

When all the above add up together, they can be quite killing! I tried telling hubby, but somehow he didn’t quite get it. Infact he’s living in the same house, sleeping on the same bed as me, so even if I don’t elaborate much, he should know what I’m going through…but somehow he doesn’t really show much concern. Maybe the way he cares for me is very different…well he will prepare breakfast for me sometimes, he will help with housework as usual (even before I got pregnant), he will take baby out for cycling & all so I can have some time to rest, etc etc. But I really wish he would offer me a light shoulder massage one of these days, offering his listening ears asking me to tell him about my work stress so I can release, give me a hug & kiss me goodbye in the morning wishing me a good day ahead…

9 comments:

cbenc12 said...

hmm..if ur husband dunno how to do it volunteerily/automatically, maybe u can ask for it.. ask him to massage for u .. should feel good =) good luck n dun too stress, not good for baby..

Daniel said...

yea... sometimes, guys r just so blur they dunno what 2 do (most of d time ;p)...

sharlydia said...

cbenc12 - it's whole different story all together if u were to ask for him to do it lor...

daniel - i dont think my hubby is that blur lar, but again if he's not sensitive enough of what i'm going thru, then tell him what to do also may defeat the whole purpose...

cbenc12 said...

oh then tell ur son n let him pass de msg to daddy :D

Dio Brando said...

Last time i was told not to give my wife a massage especially the back, we are not professionals and may press wrongly. Better go to those experts that do massage for pregnant women.

Just drop some hints... remarks like: my shoulder is aching or something like dat... see if he catches the hint. :P

Just have to ask for the hug and kiss, after a while it will turn into a routine... :)

sharlydia said...

cbenc12 - my 20-months old son is not talking that well as yet, to tell his daddy how mummy feels! haha...

dio - Hinting doesnt work for my hubby, tried that 1001 times already!

well the hug & kiss was there last time as routine b4 we had our baby...now mayb once in a blue moon he will do it...

Dio Brando said...

He has forgotten the routine or it was broken... so have to get him back to the routine :)

Natasha said...

i would suggest just telling him. Who cares if it is spoilt, i mean the wanting of him doing it on his own. With guys, you just tell, they are simple minded or claim to be! Ha ha! I tell my husband clearly and bluntly what I want. Though I admit at times it does spoil things a little bit, but then again you get what you want. Plus, your man most probably can't read your mind, as much as you'd like him to, so tell him! He loves you and probably would be ever willing to do it if you just asked.

sharlydia said...

dio - mayb u'r right...will try...

natasha - maybe u'r right, but u know, there are things that i do tell him what i want, just that sometimes on some certain thing, i would love to have him realising it himself & take some initiatives...