Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Mama or Baby?

Not sure how come this conversation came up during lunch last week, but I feel it is something to ponder upon....

If you are a married man & one day your pregnant wife is in the delivery ward struggling to deliver the baby...due to unforseen circumstances, the gynae told u to leave the ward and wait outside....

After some time, the gynae comes out from the ward and asking you this question :

"We have tried all we can, but we can only safe either the baby OR the mother...now the decision lies with you."

What will you answer?
Infact when asked this question, 99.9% of guys will answer : "Safe my wife!"

What if you are the mother? What if the question is posted to YOU by the gynae? Will you tell the gynae to safe your baby or yourself?

I almost immediately answered :"Ofcoz safe my baby!" You wont know how it feels being a pregnant mother, building the whole baby bit by bit in your own body...it's just different!

But then again, I was posted with subsequent question :"So you want your baby to be neglected since birth and then when your hubby re-marries another woman, you want your baby to be tortured & mistreated by her?"

Err...I cant answer that question....Obviously I dont want my baby to suffer, but it will be too painful for me to stay alive by sacrificing the baby!

What do you think?

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

wow..!!! that's a tough question to answer...

As for me, i'll be one of those in the 99.9% to say "Safe my wife!". But it'll be heart wrenching for a mother to choose either way.

Alvin said...

save the wife. the mother also need to realize that, if u save the baby...the baby will hv a stepmother...or no mother at all (thus deprived of motherly love).

so..the safest route would b...tell the gynae don ask the mother lo since its very difficult to come out with an answer...and if u don ask, they wont end up feeling guilty (either 1 of the decision will make them feel guilty..so better don make the decision at all)

sharlydia said...

it's just me - thx for dropping by...If u'r married or have a gf, try to ask her opinion & let me know...

alvin - if the mother were to make that decision & choose to safe herself, she will definitely be guilty for the rest of her life, trust me! but like i said, i oso wont want my baby to have stepmother & all...sigh...it's just difficult!

Alvin said...

that's why...better not to ask the mum this question. coz either way, it'll make her feel guilty her entire life (just that..her entire life is shorter if she chose to keep the child)

Anonymous said...

These days most doctors don't even ask either mother or husband that question. They'll just go ahead and save the mother. But if they need to ask someone, I agree they shouldn't ask the mother because she wants to live herself, but she doesn't want to sacrifice her baby either. In her situation, that is not an appropriate question. Ask the dad, and he'll almost definitely say "save my wife." It's a very sad thing when that happens, and I love kids, but I would have to say if there's no way to save both, then mother's life over baby's.

sharlydia said...

i sort of more or less got the majority answers to be "mama" over the baby...

Natasha said...

well since my hubby is a doctor and a gynae at that, he say legally the doctors are suppose to save the mom's, not the baby's. Mom's come first. Hope this helps. Of course, if we were given a choice, it's then our choice.

sharlydia said...

natasha - thanx for the insight! i din know it's "formality" for the doc to save the moms, so now i know!

Dio Brando said...

I as a father would say save the mother. If you already have a child than at least ur child would still have a mother.
Obviously from a mother's point of view would be the baby.
Let me ask you this - If its the case of a miscarrage then would you feel the same as if you have to give up your own for the baby?

sharlydia said...

dio brando - i think if it's a unavoidable miscarriage, then mayb i wont feel as bad lor...ofcoz will feel very sad as well lar...