Thursday, September 13, 2007

my EX-love...

I was just reading a post in ardy's blog about his previous long-distance relationship which did not work out....and this reminded me of my own story about an ex-relationship...

I was in Secondary school (Form4) back then in my hometown when I started the relationship with this guy "S", who was same age as me but studying in another school. I was introduced to him by another friend whom I met at the tuition class! S was quite a shy guy but he was really nice to me...before we even started the relationship, he's already buying gifts for me, send me flowers, etc...after sometime being friends, we started our "relationship". Since we were both quite young that time, our relationship was soooooo "pure", haha! We only hold hands and occasionally some kissing in action!

One year later when we were in Form 5, he got his driving license and started driving the family care. So now i have a "private" driver who would drive me to & fro tuition, supper, etc...ALL without parents knowing it! WOW!!! Haha...my parents were very against love-relationship while studying...

2 years in love, we have never had major arguement and we would never get to fight because he will always let me have the last say...He was so loving, caring, understanding. etc...But the relationship still did not work out at the end...

It's time to get into pre-u and his parents wanted him to continue study in Singapore but my parents wanted me to come to KL since my sisters were all already here. He said he will come & join me after his study in Singapore and told me to wait for him coz he's confident that the long-distance relationship will work out. So we were seperated...He missed me sooo much that he called every day to talk to me in length (wonder how much phone bills he had paid). He sent me thousands of those very special cards and love letters, which I kept them until the day before I moved into my new home with my hubby....I would love to continue keeping them, but I'm affraid my hubby will be jealous if he sees it one day...Besides calling & sending cards & letters, he came to KL almost every other month over the weekend just to visit me...

Well this did not last long...About 10 months later, I fell in love with someone else! This person was there when I needed someone to care for me the most and needed some encouragement. I must admit....I was selfish back then....So during his last trip visiting me in KL, I told him I couldnt wait for him for another year coz I've fallen in love with another guy....I appologized thousand times & cried like mad too coz I really felt sad to have to let go of such a good guy, and have to hurt him so badly...

We were still in touch after the break-up, even until today...He continued his life in Singapore and had 2 girl-friends within the last 10 years, planning to get married next year. I've moved on with my life too ofcoz, with the guy I've chosen over S. After 9 years in the relationship with him after breaking up with S, we got married and had our lil bundle of joy Sept last year.

I cannot judge whether i've made the best choice or not 10 years ago, leaving S for my hubby, coz it's unfair for me to compare S with my hubby now. But I can definitely say:"I've made the right choice of my life and i've never regreted it so far."

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

I had a long distance relationship as well that didn't turn out. But the guy I was dating was nowhere near as sweet as your ex! You're lucky you had a good experience at least, even though the relationship didn't turn out. My experience wasn't good at all. My ex was a jerk, a pervert, and an idiot. Your ex sounds like he treated you with respect, and was kind and loving to you. So even though your relationship didn't work out, you should be thankful that you had that kind of relationship, and it ended in a way that you both don't hate each other and you can still be friends. Even though you have a husband now, you should always treasure your memories with the other guy because he sounds like he deserves to be remembered.

It's Just Me said...

there is no right or wrong choice... may God bless you with lots of love & happiness.

sharlydia said...

anonymous - u'r right, i should treasure the "love experience" with S...but i'll only keep them in my memory...

it's just me - ya, there's really no right or wrong choice, but as long as we'r happy with our decision...

ardy said...

A lot different from mine actually ;) But I'm glad that you've made the right choice, and that you are happy with your choice.

hcfoo said...

Agree with it's just me. Wishing u happiness always :)

sharlydia said...

ardy - yeah a bit different from yours...but ur story inspired me to write about mine...

hcfoo - thx!

zewt said...

ppl are generally selish... espcially when it comes to relationship. everyone will move on with their life... so ... just take it as it is...

sharlydia said...

zewt - true lar, but i think i really hurted S badly lor...IF he is moving on living happyly ever after, then mayb i wont feel so bad whenever I tot of him...

Dio Brando said...

I pity S... he lost a gd girl. But love is like dat... You cannot force someone to love you and you cannot force yourself to love someone.

No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.

No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.

And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice

Dio Brando said...

As long as you dun regret your choice than its a gd choice :)

sharlydia said...

dio brando - i tot so too!