Sunday, December 02, 2007

What's your ultimate end in mind?

Lately I've been getting many calls from different head-hunters, asking me for different jobs in the MNCs of the industry I'm currently in. So I've been meeting up with these head-hunters to further discuss these opportunities...hough I'm not really looking for a job...

Well, some of them I was pretty interested and therefore went to the interviews with hiring managers, but then no news came back. Some others I thought the job was not as interesting or the offer was not attractive, therefore did not proceed with them...

Last night I was telling hubby that coming Monday I'll be home slightly late coz I have another interview downtown. He wasnt really too happy about it.

Hubby said :"Let me ask u this, are you looking for a job now?"

I said :"Not really, but since the opportunity came, no harm trying right?"

Hubby said :"I see that u've been meeting up with recruiters and having few interviews, but they all didnt work out right?"

I said :"Yeah...but I told u why each of them didnt work out whut! I'm really interested at this one which i'm going for interview on Monday."

Hubby said :"My dear, what is your ultimate end in mind? Didnt you tell me that all u want to achieve is to be a part-time housewife, where u can spend time with the kids & meanwhile do that something which u've always wanted to do without worrying about income? Arent we planning for another baby next year? So you are soon gonna be pregnant right? You wanna join a new company & have all those work-stress while u'r pregnant? Dont you like your new job now anymore?"

I said :"But u know what? I think with my capabilities, I can go further than where I am today. Besides, this is an Asia Pacific job and the package will be very attractive I believe."

Hubby said :"So is climbing up the corporate ladder your dream now? Do we need that few thousand dollars to support the family? Shouldnt I be the one worrying about our family financials and do all I can to support the family? I'm the man in this house, so let me do that, will ya?"

I thought for a while and realised : It's true! Why should I always think this new job I'm doing now is keeping me under-utilized? This job drives me crazy when there's project going on, and when there's none, I can work from home & live a stress-free life and spend some quality time with my baby! Yes...less pay, less challenging, but so what?

I'm sure many a times when we face the cross-road, not sure which way to go, we would appreciate someone to remind us of our priorities & dreams....
THANX HONEY!

8 comments:

zewt said...

i am not bias but he is right... if u wanna be part time housewife... then no need to look la.

Natasha said...

how often i'm in the same predicament as you are in. i'm still unsure..will see what the future holds.

mumsgather said...

I know part of you says "I can do so much more, what a wasted opportunity" Another part says, "This is not exactly what I want." In this case you have to listen to your heart not your rational. (But first you have to know what you want in your heart) Do you?

Daniel said...

ya, listen to ur heart n u'll find the answer for what u want

cbenc12 said...

wah, i wish i can work part time! but then again, i think soetimes we as a woman feel like achieving something in our life too, the satisfaction in career.. but ur husband seems to know ur goal n objective better! :D

Life's Roller Coaster~

Dio Brando said...

well looks like ur husband is working to ur dream... what is loving husband you have... You are a very lucky girl.

Ah-Bong said...

well... i suppose ur hubby's right too. stay how u are now la... save the hussle, and live happily. money isn't everything. all the best!

ps: thanks for dropping by me blog. ;)

sharlydia said...

zewt - i wasnt even looking but the oppt came to me ler...

natasha - u need to discuss this openly with ur hubby like i did i guess...

mumsgather - well in long term, it's definitely my dream to be a part-time housewife. but i was confused and really gamed to try this oppt simply bcoz i tot i can do better in corporate while i'm still young now. But again, my hubby was right...since we'r planning for 2nd baby next year (meaning i can get pregnant anytime now), i shouldnt be trying for such a big change...

daniel - yeah...I guess i was convinced by my hubby lar...

cbenc12 - yeah, that's y i think communication openly between us as husband & wife is crucial.

dio - many pple told me that ALL THE TIME : ur hubby is a dream of many women!

ah-bong - u'r right, money isnt everything...
thx for dropping by too & hope to cu here more often!