Shy guy still exist?

Was just listening to a close friend's story about her recent date - we call him "the shy guy"...It was quite funny and we ended up all laughing!

Infact this "shy guy" has been dating M (my close friend) for past few months, sent her HUGE bouquet of flower to the office during her birthday and bought her the latest Canon Digital Camera as birthday gift! She finds him quite interesting, pretty good looking, soft & gentle person, and above all, he drives a BMer! But one weird thing about him is - TOO SHY!

According to M, he will need an excuse to date her each time, ie. asking her to accompany him for wedding dinner, company function, when he has something to pass to her, when there's free movie tickets to redeem, etc...hahaha, so funny!

And during weekends, he will sms M asking "what ru doing?" Then when M replied saying "Home, doing nothing", hoping that he will ask her out. Guess what? He will just reply saying "M at home too, watching F1", and that's it! wahahaha!

We concluded that this guy is just too shy...BUT does shy guy really still exist these days? I just think this guy needs to read some Shy Guy Dating Guide or something! haha...What do u think? I thought guys nowadays are a lot more daring, out there dating or hunting for 1-nite-stand most of the time if not married, NO?

My friend M is wondering if she should just ask him straight if he likes her and if yes, let's progress....I seriously dont know what advice to give her...what do u think?

My deams...

I'm sure everyone has their own dreams, whether practical or realistic or not, they are still dreams!

I personally have 3...alot huh? haha...

Those who know me personally will know that I LOVE kids! I used to work in Club Med Cherating during holiday breaks, managing the kids sent by their parents to the Kids Club. I also used to take my nieces & nephew out for movies (cartoon ie. Ice Age etc), cruise-library visit, Mc Donald's, church, etc. I love spending time with them...So I told myself, one day I MUST have my own kids - so that's my 1st dream....

Status?

Many years after having this dream, I finally achieved it last year when I got my baby boy! And I feel that he's the cutest person in this world now...haha!

There was this TV show which I watched when I was very very young, about this couple who met in Rome, Italy...how they fell in love, how they missed each other during their first & last date & lost contact of each other, and finally how they bumped into each other in the home country again after many years and still in love with each other, they finally got married. Somehow after watching the show, I've always been dreaming to visit Rome - so that's my 2nd dream...

Status?

I guess I'm really lucky to have a lovely husband who knew that I have this dream and is planning for a trip to visit Rome & Paris with me next month! HOORAY!!! So that means I'll be achieving my 2nd dream very soon!

I always admire those woman who can be a housewife, so then they wont need to handle crappy bosses, irritating colleagues & all. But if u ask me, I may not want to be a full-time housewife either, coz then I'll probably lose touch with things and become a boring person soon! My whole wardrobe of pretty office clothes will go to waste...and I wont be able to show-off some fashion in the workplace! So...I always think, if one day I can be a part-time housewife where I dont stay at home 24 hours to take care of my baby & housework, and I get to do something I've been wanting to do, wow...how nice! By then, I'll have almost zero stress, enjoying time with my baby as when I want it, meet people while doing the "own business" which i've been wanting to start doing...PERFECT! So...that's my 3rd dream...

Status?

Well, I'm still dreaming, obviously! haha...

So, what do you dream — dreams of achievement or fantastic imagined worlds? Dreaming about getting married with Mariah Carey or Richard Gear? Dreaming of becoming a millionare?

Part2 - 1nite on a wrong stand

I was reading this entry on my favourite blog by zewt - One Night on a Wrong Stand...and since I have some 1-nite-stand stories to share, I'm making this Part 2, so if u wanna read Part 1, please go to zewt's blog....

Some time ago I had this friend who went out clubbing as usual on Sat nite...after few hours of hot dancing & drinking, she realised there's this mat-salleh (caucasion) who had been observing her from the other table while drinking. Until this guy saved enough guts, true enough he came by to buy my friend a drink, but by then he was already like....very drunk! After few more drinks with my friend, she realised that if they continue drinking at the club, they will end up no where! haha...

So she decided to be open about it, and they finally got to the taxi and ended up in her house since that guy cant even tell which hotel is he staying in...hahaha (too drunk)! By the time she finished removing all her clothes & his clothes, she's as tired as a cow, u know why? Coz she's the only one in action & that guy already 100% knocked off! wahahah!

There's also this one other story I heard from another friend....this time from a guy...

He picked up this hot chinese gal, thinking he's the most lucky person that nite in the club...they got very "high" after plenty of alcohol and they were hugging each other while walking out the club. He drove her back home since he stays alone and guess what? After all the HOT "pre-sex" stuff, she insisted my friend to wear a condom! And guess what? He couldn't find a single one in the whole dem house! hahahaha!

This last one is very classic....

Both guy & gal knew each other but not really well and ended up having 1-nite-stand after one of the party & after drinking too much....
2 months down the road, she missed her period & "tah-dah"....SHE's PREGNANT! So how?
They finally got married lor...

So, always remember if u'r gamed for 1-nite-stand, make sure you dont end up at the "wrong-stand"...haha!

Trip to Japan - Kobe, Osaka & Kyoto

Over lunch while talking about some places where we have been travelling to, reminded me of my trip to Japan with my hubby 2 years ago....how time flies!

One of the colleagues was saying she may be going to Japan end of this year and was asking me for some interesting places that she MUST go to. I realise...shucks! I've forgotten many of those places' name! So I told myself, I have to blog it down before i totally forget about the whole trip, haha!

We covered 3 cities in Japan - Kobe, Osaka & Kyoto.

Oh...reminds me of the FANTASTIC Kobe beef experience - the BEST beef I've ever had in my whole life! It melts in your mouth, trust me! And I was lucky to have a chance to try Kone beef in different types of cooking - Tepanyaki & Sukiyaki. I personally LOVE Tepanyaki by far more than Sukiyaki....Besides Kobe beef, this is how Kobe looks like at night :

Kyoto is a city full of history...Famous tourist spots we went to included : Kiyomizu-dera Temple, Kyoto Palace, Ginkaku-ji, Nijo-jo Castle and Kinkaku-ji Temple. Some pictures taken as below :

Oh before i forget, there's this place which I would think is seriously a MUST-GO : the Japanese On-sen (Hot spring). This is my first time entering an On-sen and I got a culture shock! Hahaha! Ofcoz the male is seperated from the female area...And there are just many many types of hot spring, some even open-air! I truely enjoyed the experience and this is the On-sen we went to (One of the best Japan) ...

Alright, so that's really summary of Kyoto & Kobe...now OSAKA! Shopping is soooo good in Osaka! We were staying in Dotonburi (not sure if I got the spelling right) and it's near Shinsaibashi with whole lot of shoppings! Besides that, we also visited the Osaka Castle & the Umeda Sky Tower, check out the photos...One very special thing about this Umeda Sky Tower is the floating garden which worth a visit...

Who moved my cheese?

I recently changed job role in the same company which is a norm in the company that I work for, where there's great amount of diversity. Infact this is not the first time I've changed role since I've been with the company for many years, but I've always been changing roles within marketing function, from country marketing to regional marketing, etc. So I've never felt the "change" so much until I joined this new team few weeks ago...

Though I was the one who initiated this change since I wasnt too happy with my ex-boss, I still relatively feel uneasy...I find it difficult to adapt to this new job function since it's something really different from marketing management, which is my CORE skills! This job now involves a lot of processes and I need to be extra detailed and extra thorough.

Someone just came asking me yesterday how am I doing with my new job.
I said : "Still a lot to learn....struggling, but trying to enjoy it at the same time!"
She replied : "Positiive attitude will carry you far. Nothing beats working with your difficult ex-boss!"
I said : " Yeah! Struggling with people is equally tough compared to struggling with the job function, but good thing is - struggling with people will never end, and struggling with the job, it takes only some time to get through."

Infact it reminds me of a book which I've read many years ago - Who Moved My Cheese! (Bet many of you have read this book before) This is a simple comic-style book that talks about coping changes in our lives. I took out the book and re-read it few days ago...to remind myself of the attitude I should have while coping with this change that's happening to me now at work. Moving out from the comfort zone is never easy, but like Haw said in the book :"When u move beyond your fear, u'll feel free!" And you can only adapt to the change when u start enjoying the journey to that change.

I hope it will not take me too long to find my new cheese station, so I can start enjoying those "cheese" again and be comfortable for a while...

Appreciating his love...

There are just too many bloggers talking about Namewee the dude who gone into trouble by singing the "new version" of Negaraku...So i decided to just make sure i hold my breath & not blogging anything about this guy....

Over the weekend during a lunch with a close friend, we were talking about our marriage, our new babies and also some gossip about our MILs (mother-in-laws). At the same time, we also talked about our husbands...yes, our lovely husbands!

After the long conversation with her, I suddenly realised that I should appreciate my dearly hubby a lot more! Infact my hubby is never a romantic person, so he doesnt tell u how pretty you are when u dress up for a dinner, he doesnt believe in buying flowers, he will not plan for special romatic dinner for anniversaries, he doesnt say I LOVE U often, he doesnt come home with lil surprises and all...BUT, he's definitely someone who loves me very very much!

Why am I so sure about that?

Many years ago when I met a serious accident which almost took away my life, he was there for me throughout the difficult time. He was among the first to get to the hospital, and was shocked to find out about my condition, but he stayed there and did not "run away"...Through the 2 weeks in hospital and subsequent 2 months at home, he came visiting me every single day without fail....It was a painful time for me both physically and mentally, but he was sooo encouraging! I must say, for someone who's as good looking as him, he could have just leave me and go look for another better looking girl and get married happily ever after. But he decided to stay...And 2 years ago we got married, I must say, he's by far the best hubby and now with our baby, he's truely a fantastic daddy!

Over lunch with my close friend, she reminded me by saying :

"U know, not many people get to go through such difficult time with someone u love and most importantly, this love one did not leave u andwas there for you throughout the toughest time of your life! Many couples fall in love and get married and have kids and just live their normal lives without such an experience, which is good and bad for them. Why good? Because they wont need to go through the pain and the heart breaking moments. Why bad? Because they wont get to experience such LOVE which will last forever in their lives! So u should really appreciate your hubby..."

Sooooo true! And I really wanna tell him that :
I LOVE YOU MY DEAR! AND I REALLY APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR ME SO FAR...THANX FOR BEING THERE!

Friend who hurts

Have u ever been "betrayed" by a friend whom u thought is your best friend? Well I'm sure many may say : "YES!" Why? Because there are simply too many of these people who are selfish and they are like fake monsters!

Few years ago when this girl joined the same company as me, I was assigned as her mentor at work in the same department. At a regional offsite planning session in Singapore after she joined for a month, she mentioned this remark during a small group break-up discussion time about motivation at work :

"To me, my mentor is like my motivation! She's like the most energetic person in the office but despite of her busyness, she's always there to help answer my questions..."

Wow! I was touched and I felt soooo good about it! At least she appreciates what i'm doing...

Very soon after that we became the closest friend ever in the office and many people who always bump into us together will say :"Wah, 2 of you always together wherever u go hor?" Haha...Yeah! And we talk almost about anything and everything...We roomed-mate each other at company offsite events and went clubbing together...She even volunteered to be chief "chi-mui" for my wedding ceremony! And ofcoz, we had lots of fun together at the "wild" hens nite....

I thought too, that i've found my "best" friend in the company after my previous best friend left to join our competitor...

Guess what? On my wedding day, this "best friend" did not turn up on time and she was late for more than an hour! When she got to my house, the whole process of "zhip san leong" was done and we were all taking pictures already...Luckily i had a bunch of spontaneous chi-muis and so the whole thing went alright despite of the hiccup that the chief was not there. Was I mad at her? At that very moment, YES! But it was my wedding day, so i let it go & wanna enjoy the rest of the long day with fun & joy....When i returned to office after my 2 weeks honeymoon break, I decided to put this whole unhappy incident behind my back, and so my "best friend" and I were just back to normal - talk & laugh together, lunch together etc....

Until one fine day few months ago, when few of us colleagues were talking, these people started talking bad about my "best friend" and naturally i defended her! Then this guy who's also my close friend, started shouting at me saying :

"Hey! Stop defending her lar! She has never treated u as her best friend ok? She has been bad-mouthing about u all these while! We all just didn't want to tell u coz we know u'll get hurt badly! But i really cant help it now...seeing u still so silly, thinking that she's ur "best friend"!"

U know what? I really really felt like i've been thrown down from some 20th floor and feel like killing myself!!! It hurts soooo badly & I cried...Someone whom i've helped so much in her career & work said that I'll always bully new colleagues, and lots of other negative things....I cried BADLY!

Then subsequently, many close friends came telling me about things that this "best friend" has said to them, asking me not to be too sad, just let it go...I thought about it for many days & this really bothered me...I could have confronted her, but i did not do so. Finally I decided to just stop initiating conversation with her, but will still respond if she talks to me....

I believe what goes around comes around....I've met many many more close friends in the company and we always have fun & laughters together. What happened to her? She's now left all alone with limited friends to even go out lunching with...how sad...

Our lil bundle of Joy!

It took me a while to decide which should I post here at my very first blog...and finally i decided on this one - about my 1 year old lil cute baby....

Some people may think & say :
sigh, this new mum, is gonna just write & write about how cute her baby is, nothing new lar!

Guess what? I may surprise u! haha!

Infact, having to write about this, it's also to remind myself of the joyous moment in my life! When my lil baby boy was born Sept last year, he weighed 3.6kg and he was born without epidural (a type of painkiller for those men out there who may not know, hehe!). I was proud of myself and ofcoz my hubby was proud of me too! The type of joy when baby came out from my womb was just "undescripable" and i'm sure those of you out there who are parents will know what i mean...

Like a blink of an eye, the experience of giving birth is still so fresh to me and yet baby is already almost one year old now! Time flies...

I must say...being a working mom, it's never easy for me to juggle the busy schedule and yet spend enough quality time with my lil baby, plus breast-feeding during the first 6 months! And I've shared with many many new mothers that this is worth the effort! Infact I feel like I can start a breast-feeding consulting business since I've consulted sooooo many friends, friends' wives, hubby's friends, hubby's friends wives and colleagues on this matter! hahaha! Some came to me asking about the feeding, some asked me about juggling work & feeding the baby, some asked me about traveling for work while nursing, some asked me about handling breastmilk, etc, and I must say, this mode of exchanging notes is so important and encouraging!

Now that baby is turning one, seeing him with some lil cute teeth and the lovely smile each day, I realised that the joyous moment did not just stop at the moment he was born, but has been with me and my hubby and our whole family throughout the last 11+ months...