Friday, February 29, 2008

Wonder how to make mum happy

Hubby & I took some time-off yesterday first half to get some personal things done. Since it was already close to lunch time & we were just around the neighbourhood, we called mum to lunch with us, together with my mother-in-law & grandma-in-law & my son.

I suggested to go for Korean food since I feel like having Kimchi and I know the fact that mum likes Korean food too, but havent been brought to Korean restaurant for awhile. Everything was fine over lunch, but I know mum didnt eat much, probably dued to her small appetite these days ever since the grastric problem.

But u know what? I had a ear-full from her this afternoon when I met her for lunch, since I'm working from home today...She commented that we shouldnt have wasted money for expensive meal since it was just ordinary lunch, not even some special occasion. She said we should have spent the money for best milk powder for our baby! BTW ever since she saw us buying a packet-type milk powder (Dugro), instead of one of the most expensive tin-type MamilGold, she has been nagging on us saying we are not giving our baby the best thing.

Besides, mum also said she was very uncomfortable having meal with my in-laws & told me not to invite her next time if we are going with the in-laws. Infact she also said alot more other comments which actually made me feel sad & disappointed.

U see...sometimes she complained about not having good son-in-laws though she has four, when she compared her sons-in-law with her friends' sons-in-law. Sometimes she complained about not going out for good meals like this often coz all of us are so busy & no one has time for the old parents. Sometimes she complained about us not willing to listen to her...etc etc...

I'm not sure about my other sisters, but I'm pretty sure that I've been trying my every single effort to be the best daughter and my hubby the best son-in-law. We will spend time with them, bring them out for dinner over weekend, we will invite them over to our house & enjoy the park, we will take them out for shopping, etc etc.

YET, these may not necessarily have made mum happy! Sometimes I doubt, whether I really know her well enough to know how to make her happy. I really wonder...

5 comments:

Dio Brando said...

Sometimes its not the big actions but the small ones that make her happy...
Maybe she is happy but at the same time feel guilty that you treat her nice that she complain u are "wasting" money on her.
What matters is that u know u have done wat u can for her, whether she appreciate it, thats another story.
You dun want to regret it later on, but keep in mind what she says.

SpikeySpikey said...

it's always hard to please mothers, firstly i am sure she wants the best for you, but moms being moms like to compare with OTHERs. My mom does this all the time "my friend's daughter did this for her" etc. I am sure your mom(they all love to nag) knows that you have your best interest for her and that's what all matters. :)

sharlydia said...

dio - mayb u'r right, but i really wanna see her happy. Now that she started attending church, I'm hoping that her heart will be opened & touched by God...

spikey - Thanx! I hope mum really knows (deep down her heart) that i'm doing every single bit to make her happy...

cbenc12 said...

i undertand what u mean coz i face de same prob.. i have another sis n she is good in making my mum happy. she is de one who knows how to 'talk' n 'do stuffs' that make her happy while i am de opposite. i am not good at those even when i try, it doesnt make my mum happy. i've been trying to hard and sometimes i am very dissapointed when she gives me negative comment after my effort. it makes me tired sometimes. but what to do.. she is my mum.. i am still trying.. :)

sharlydia said...

cbenc12 - haha...Iguess both of us have to keep trying then! But i guess what dio said was very right - we just need to do our best & not regret it later...