Listening with your heart, not your ears...

In the past one whole month I suddenly realised that my hubby has alot of interest in politic matters! Why do I say so? Way before the election on Mar8, he has been reading lots of info regarding the election, the candidates, the parties, etc. Then he will keep me updated on all the latest progress & news...Well I thought this is a once-in-few-years occasion, so that's why he's paying some attention to it, knowing that we are going to make a difference this time!

Then it was after the election...lots & lots of post-election news on new state government, new MP, etc etc. Again, he will surf & read all the latest "gossip" either about BN or the "new govt" and keep me updated. So he will talk and talk about this every time when we get to have a conversation....

1 week, 2 weeks, now almost 3 weeks after the election, nothing has changed. He is STILL talking to me about politics, his opinion, latest gossip etc....I've told him before, that I'm actually not too interested at all these, but since it was the hot topic of everyone, I'm fine to listen to them, but I really dont have much interest....

On another hand, work has been CRAZY for me last 2 weeks! Imust say, being pregnant and having to handle a stressful job with tight timeline & all, is never a easy thing to manage...So I was complaining to hubby on Friday night that I've been having this bad headache for past few days most probably due to lack of sleep & I think I need a break. U know what he said in return? After few moments of silence, he said "hmmm, that's funny..."

WHAT??? FUNNY???

That's the result of listening with your ears and not your heart! I then realised that he was too much into reading some stuff on the net, so while looking at the laptop, he just simply gave me some respond...I got upset and went to sleep straight away...

Infact this was not the first time he's doing this to me! He's a talker, definitely not a good listener. Many of my friends told me lots of guys are like that, but as long as they love u and show love in other manner, dont take this too seriously. Well sometimes this is just easier said than done...Who wants to be unhappy right?

Sometimes what I required of him are just simple things...like caring for me, give me more TLC (tender loving care), listen to me with his heart & support me when I'm not comfortable (especially now that I'm pregnant). I've even taken time to tell him how I feel and not once, but many times, YET he hasnt improved much on this...

Maybe we can never find someone perfect...No doubt he's a good husband in many other areas, a good daddy too, but there's still this lil black dot on the beautiful picture...Or am I just too demanding???

Joke of the day...

Just thought despite my busyness this week, I'll post this one - short but funny!

I was driving back to office with another pretty girl colleague, R in my car after lunch last Friday. As we drove pass a fruit stall outside a coffee shop, I was suddenly craving for guava. Since R felt like having fruits too, I stopped the car by the road side and she jumped down to buy fruits.

When she's back, she was holding quite big a plastic bag so I was curious what she bought...So we the below conversation happened:

Me : So what did u buy? Looks like a big bag there?

R : OH, I bought pineapple, and lembau guava...

Me : WHAT? Lembau guava??? Is this new type of special guava or what? I havent heard of it before...Nice?

R (BURST out laughing) : Sorry, pleave forgive my poor cantonese! I said "leong-bau" guava (meaning 2 packs of guava)!

HAHAHAHAHA!!! We both ended up laughing out loud in the car like crazy women while having our "lembau" guava!!! Kakakaka...

In the past 10 days....

I've been really busy at work since last week, so have not really been blogging...

Alot had happened in the past week, and to us Malaysians, ofcoz the most significant "happening" will be our election on 8 March. People were all queuing up to vote since early morning and u can actually see the eagleness to vote in their eyes!

Well I'm staying in between Kepong & Segambut area, and both these places were won by the opposition, OFCOZ! Infact hubby & I were sitting infront of the TV waiting for the counting results on Sat night after dinner & after putting baby to bed. But what we realised was...very disappointing - the TV programme showing LIVE results was not reflecting the "truth".

So then we decided to switch on the computer & depend on our internet! True enough, the news were MUCH FASTER on the internet! We were really delighted to see more & more opposition candidates won over BN candidates, whether they are from PKR, PAS or DAP. For the first time I guess, the people of Malaysia are no longer "racist"! They just wanted to do their part for a change, change of a better future for all of us!

Finally I went to sleep & couldnt wait for all the latest results, but the first thing hubby told me when I woke up next morning was - we finally achieved something! Though the opposition did not win the overall election, but we achieved 2/3 to AT LEAST deny BN! Well for a start, that could be good enough, coz the opposition finally will have a "say" on all govt decisions!

Many of us will have very high expectation on many changes to be made from now on...Let's just pray for better ruler over this nation.

Work friends

I was attending a friend J's wedding dinner last night together with my hubby. This is one of my best friends at work. I dont usually call these friends "colleagues" coz to me, our relationship has gone beyond just "colleagues". I categorize "colleagues" as merely work-related people whom we dont really talk beyond work-related stuff; while work friends are good friends that I made along my working life, whom we dont really talk about work-related stuff, but whole lot more other things around us.

I knew J since I joined this company, but have never been in the same team ever. Somehow we have to visit this university for meetings when we were both new to the company and so we started chatting along the journey each time we go together. Then we got along very well and became close friends. We have another common close friend too, called P, who was already pretty close to J when P joined my team and became close to me. So three of us will always go out lunching together, sometimes all the way driving from Tmn Tun to KL down town or Mid Valley when all 3 of us have some time to spare for longer lunch. We also went treasure hunting together...

Unfortunately P decided to leave the company about 3+ years ago coz he got a much better offer from our competitor. It was painful for me to have to lose a good friend at work. I used to sing "Here without u" when I think of him. But though he has left the company, we still meet up very often at Coffee Beans after work, or meet up for lunch when he's around the area, and mostly without J.

Time flies....In the last 3 years, there has been so much changes to our lives! I've got married in 2006, then P got married beginning of the following year. Our meet-ups then reduced A LOT after we both got married. Then I've got a baby and ofcoz alot more busier, and he has been promoted & got busier too I guess. We hardly meet up anymore...We'll call each other once in a blue moon, but usually just have a short conversation.

Last night P & wife, me & hubby together with other friends were put on the same table for the dinner. Sad to say...P & I hardly spoke to each other...We seemed sooooo like "strangers" to each other. I hate the feeling, and I was sad, though I looked happy on the face mingling with other friends. Sigh...

I guess this is what happens to work friends when u dont put the effort to keep in touch. No matter how close u were, when u left the company & put into new environment, u'll make new friends. Same goes to the one who stayed, no matter how painful was the lost, u'll get adjusted soon & then make new friends! That's why people say "Work friends come & go, dont take it too hard"...