Sunday, March 23, 2008

Listening with your heart, not your ears...

In the past one whole month I suddenly realised that my hubby has alot of interest in politic matters! Why do I say so? Way before the election on Mar8, he has been reading lots of info regarding the election, the candidates, the parties, etc. Then he will keep me updated on all the latest progress & news...Well I thought this is a once-in-few-years occasion, so that's why he's paying some attention to it, knowing that we are going to make a difference this time!

Then it was after the election...lots & lots of post-election news on new state government, new MP, etc etc. Again, he will surf & read all the latest "gossip" either about BN or the "new govt" and keep me updated. So he will talk and talk about this every time when we get to have a conversation....

1 week, 2 weeks, now almost 3 weeks after the election, nothing has changed. He is STILL talking to me about politics, his opinion, latest gossip etc....I've told him before, that I'm actually not too interested at all these, but since it was the hot topic of everyone, I'm fine to listen to them, but I really dont have much interest....

On another hand, work has been CRAZY for me last 2 weeks! Imust say, being pregnant and having to handle a stressful job with tight timeline & all, is never a easy thing to manage...So I was complaining to hubby on Friday night that I've been having this bad headache for past few days most probably due to lack of sleep & I think I need a break. U know what he said in return? After few moments of silence, he said "hmmm, that's funny..."

WHAT??? FUNNY???

That's the result of listening with your ears and not your heart! I then realised that he was too much into reading some stuff on the net, so while looking at the laptop, he just simply gave me some respond...I got upset and went to sleep straight away...

Infact this was not the first time he's doing this to me! He's a talker, definitely not a good listener. Many of my friends told me lots of guys are like that, but as long as they love u and show love in other manner, dont take this too seriously. Well sometimes this is just easier said than done...Who wants to be unhappy right?

Sometimes what I required of him are just simple things...like caring for me, give me more TLC (tender loving care), listen to me with his heart & support me when I'm not comfortable (especially now that I'm pregnant). I've even taken time to tell him how I feel and not once, but many times, YET he hasnt improved much on this...

Maybe we can never find someone perfect...No doubt he's a good husband in many other areas, a good daddy too, but there's still this lil black dot on the beautiful picture...Or am I just too demanding???

6 comments:

Daniel said...

Sharlydia, dont give urself so much stress and importantly dont think of all those negative thoughts. It's not good for ur baby inside. I guess you cant change a person overnite and like u said can never find someone perfect. Stay cool. Cheers.
Wish u r fine n happy

Dio Brando said...

Well... you cannot have the best of both worlds. Just accept him as he is, after all that was why u married him for. He may not change to your liking but at least make known to him how u feel about this :)
Dun let this upset u and ur bb...

sharlydia said...

daniel - thx! Infact i know it's not good for my baby, but i cant couldnt help it...Mayb I'm overstressed out at work, that's y my expectation on him when i come home became higher...i dont know...

dio - actually he wasnt as bad when i married him, though he's never a good listerner...Anyway I just hope he'll improve lar, somehow...

cbenc12 said...

err.y dun u do that to him? :D
ok i am bad.. but let him have a taste of his own medicine. when he talk to u next time, try to response something that has nothing to do with what he says (on purpose).. see how he feels about it..

thats what i do when i m not happy about something, i let them feel how i feel (just a couple of times) . then he'll understand and probably try to improve it too..
get what i mean? just a suggestion :D

i hope i am not that bad :p

cbenc12 said...

coz sometimes i feel that no matter how many times i tell him/her, they dun understand y i am so pissed off. until they feel it for themselves..then they see why annoying it can be :P

sharlydia said...

cbenc12 - this is a good suggestion, but i've done it b4...My hubby just didnt bother and after answering to whatever i was saying, he can just continue his story, so i bet he doesnt feel the way i'm feeling it! Maybe I should do this for awhile (continuosly), then he might feel it...haha!

Thanx anyway...