Wednesday, April 02, 2008

Modern relationship

I was catching up with one of my close girlfriend R last week and she told me she needed some advice. Below part of our conversation :

Me :"So how are things with your new boyfriend? Ru enjoying the new relationship?"

R :"Well...I found that he's not too interesting afterall...We went dating as usual, watching movies, having dinners, went shopping, etc, but we dont have much interesting stuff to talk about or to do together! I think he's quite boring!"

Me :"What? Thought u would have found out about this before u even started the relationship with him right?"

R :"Yeah...but I thought things could be different! Anyway I was wrong...So I'm not sure what to do now."

Me :"Well u should just be frank with him, so then both of u wont waste anymore time! Err...unless u'r saying, u guys f***ed already???"

R :"I know u gonna scold me, but....yeeaaahhh...we did it, we f***ed already..."

Wow! I was quite surprise to hear that she actually slept with this guy whom she went out with only for 2 weeks! Well I was surprised obviously becoz she's not the type who will go for ONS (one-nite-stand).

I guess this is so-called the Modern Relationship? U date with this person for awhile, do everything u want, feel happy about it then u continue; if not u step out from the relationship and say, sorry I think u'r not too interesting!

I'm not sure since when our society has became like this, where boy-girl relationship is treated so lightly, mayb a decade ago? But for me, to fall in love with someone is easy, to be in love with someone and to give this person everything u have including your body and that precious moment in bed, is never easy!

Sometimes I cant understand how this "modern relationship" could work out, especially if u'r female, but I guess it's alot to do with the way we were brought up...
***no offence to anyone reading***

Just my 2 cents worth...

8 comments:

zewt said...

your fren.. very the fast eh? wait till the time when your son grows up!

Dio Brando said...

we seem to become more westernized where sex is something common when in a relationship. It is not something that is kept till u are married...

But this is very much depending on ur upbringing as well... If you were taught from young to stay virgin till married... then maybe u may :P

Natasha said...

well, i agree with you. especially giving your body up to someone, for me that is like a big 'NO' unless i plan to marry that person. it's too sacred. oh well, wonder what is going to happen during our kids time.

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sharlydia said...

zewt - so I hope my kids dont do this lor when they grow up!

dio - well even if u'r not thought to keep ur virginity until u'r married, i guess doing it after 2 weeks in a relationship is still too fast lor...

natasha - that's right, I always think virginity is something real precious for us ladies...

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Gotethix said...

Such things should not be viewed as abnormal. In this day and age, we should be able to accept it already. Don't you think so?

sharlydia said...

gotethix - thx for dropping by!

Well..accepting "it" where "it" means making love before marraige is fine with me, surely if u already knew this person well enough. But accepting "it" where "it" means making love after going out for 2 weeks is way too speedy to me, maybe i'm just too old-fashion...no offence...

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