Was having lunch with a friend who's much younger than me, a junior who just joined the company as management trainee indeed...Somehow we clicked well when we first met and so we have been lunching & joking together for the past few weeks.
Today, she looked very down...not as cheerful as before and was extra quiet...True enough, something happened...Problems and complication with relationship!
She has been having problems with her current boyfriend and have tried breaking up with him for few times, but somehow got back together. Few days ago she asked for a break-up again after a big fight with the boyfriend, but then the boyfriend asked for one last chance which she agreed to....
What's her problem? She's quite sicked with the current boyfriend for being someone ridiculously uncourteous and not caring at all. At the same time, there's this guy in the same 
management training program ("F") who's really caring for her and he has expressed his feeling towards my friend too, knowing that she has got a boyfriend.
management training program ("F") who's really caring for her and he has expressed his feeling towards my friend too, knowing that she has got a boyfriend. So now she's confused! Why? Because she cant let go of the boyfriend as yet though she's sicked with his attitude coz they have been together for 2.5 years. BUT she quite like this new guy "F" too! She asked me what can she do....
Well I told her to settle her problem with the boyfriend first and not get into
another relationship while she's not even sure where her heart is going. This feeling with "F" is probably just crush, which will be gone over time...
another relationship while she's not even sure where her heart is going. This feeling with "F" is probably just crush, which will be gone over time...When I was advising her, suddenly I was reflecting on myself...how often this "crush" feeling happened to me? yaya...I know I'm married, but let's be frank, it still happens and I'm sure it has happened to u too! But with some self-control, doesnt it always fade off over time?
6 comments:
2.5yrs is not really a long time. I broke up with my ex after 7yrs. That seemed like ages, but it was for the good of both of us. Once the feeling is no longer there, see the person would only make u irritated even at the slightest mistake. We argued everyday.
I agree with you that you should settle the first relationship before stepping into another one. It becomes unfair for the second party.
Getting into a new relationship rght after ending one is not wise. The bf will get the wrong idea about her jumping bfs...
Hi Sharlydia,
Gosh, sounds like a Dear Thelma (of The Star's StarMag) column...=) I read your name thingy by the way, so thanks for sharing...
without the presence of F... she wouldnt be feeling this way... conclusion.... backside itchy.
dio - i agreed with u, that's y i gave her those advice...
but have u had a crush before?
daphne - thx for dropping by...haha, glad that i sounded like a columnist now...
zewt - I tot so in the beginning, but she confirmed that it's not wor...She said she has been fighting with the bf many times & broke off few times even b4 this. But anyway i can only "advise", whether or not she wants to accept F & break up with her bf is still very much up to her...
it's actually not easy to breakup a relationship... but looking at ur friend's situation, why go on with it when the "fire" is not there plus the quarreling, etc.
daniel - u'r right, that's what I told her too!
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